I feel I should apologize in advance for launching this blog with the obligatory “what I’ve learned this year” post. I promise this won’t be another vanity project from another wannabe influencer. But this year has been full of ups and downs, and this being an online journal of sorts, it feels cathartic to share.
The year started on a pretty high note. I’d recently been promoted to a decent job at a magazine I’d worked at for about four years, and I was doing work I was proud of. I was also preparing to move into my first apartment of my own, having put up with one too many awful roommates.
The day I moved into my apartment was also the day I received an email from HR. I was laid off by the new editor-in-chief who came in shortly after my promotion. It shouldn’t have been much of a shock, as he already laid off most of the staff I’d worked with for years, and he didn’t seem terribly interested in providing constructive feedback.
Cut to an apartment with a mattress on the floor and no other furniture, as I was preparing to see how far my severance pay could stretch. After exhausting that and my unemployment, I was left to fend for myself in the gig economy of Los Angeles, which felt like a never-ending downward spiral.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the past 10 years, it’s that life will rarely go according to plan.
A new job was difficult to come by, as my previous employer wasn’t the only media brand laying off employees en masse. After months of interviews and rejection emails for jobs I was perfectly qualified for, I finally landed on my feet. It’s not my dream job, but it’s something I’m good at that pays the bills and then some. Plus, it left time for me to focus on my passions.
One such passion was my first book deal. It seemingly came out of nowhere, a publisher emailing me about an article I wrote a couple years ago and all but forgot about. And it happened at just the right moment, a hand pulling me out of the deep and giving me a reason to reignite my passion.
A decade ago, I was full of hope. I’d just come out of the closet, graduated high school, and set all these plans for my life. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the past 10 years, it’s that life will rarely go according to plan. But it can still be exactly what you need.